New Born Phlem Chock What To Do?

Mario does not want to learn

Recently I met with Sebastian, one of my friends. During the evening he complained about his 14 year old son Mario. This denied the learning and has only friends and playing computer in the head. Sebastian assured me that they have tried every means to animate Mario to learn. When I asked, "How exactly did you try it?" I got the following response: "I explained to him how important is the school for its future as nothing helped, I have threatened him with sanctions do not play computer.. , no going out with friends. And I told him how disappointed I am of him. "

WOW. The poor boy.

I asked if he was right when I was going to talk to Mario. He agreed, though he saw no sense in it.

few days later, when Sebastian, as I briefly with Mario alone, I asked this casually, as he would be out Sun The answer: "Eh well throughout, only to school always makes me sick just learning to play no time for my friends computer and I can not I see one I do not want to have fun...." His physiology (facial expressions and body language) showed me that he, at the thought to learning, actually bad.

I decided to to intervene covered (manipulate) and said.. "I understand that good friends are important and play a fun computer makes sure it's okay if you annoy the school is also ok, if you currently against the.. wehrst can learn, because the more you do now wehrst other hand, the more fun you will make learning later. You know Mario, sooner or later, everyone recognizes the benefits of good education and how much fun it is to get good grades in school. "

Mario was irritated. And with that, certainly desired response, I let him alone.

days later, I told Sebastian that his Son would be completely changed. He does his homework, learn for tests and then takes even more time for friends and computers.

How did that come about?

The first thing I did, quite like NLP, rapport built up and adopted the language of Mario (piss off, have fun, ...)

Next, I'm Mario took the pressure, as I have shown understanding for him ( pacing).

then I have used so-called hypnotic language patterns ( Milton-model ) to messages, past his mind (consciousness), addressed directly to his unconscious. The irritation, which he showed, was an indication that the messages had arrived.

Everything else was just a matter of time. His subconscious does the rest, so he is now able to have fun while learning. This he does his school "duties" faster and still has enough time for his personal needs.

If not now on the idea that integrity of the possibility NLP manipulation to find interesting and that you engage. It could save you, but from manipulation, but one can eventually damage it can do.